From time to time, I've been pointing out another one of the BIGGEST dating mistakes around. Any of them can short-circuit a relationship before it even gets off the ground. Please, don't let the doer be you! Men notice effort and it shows you value the relationship greatly. Celeste was a professional entertainer who knew exactly how to make herself eye-catching: what to wear, how to turn on the glow and how to make an entrance that made tongues dangle

But that all took work, and in her private life she'd rather not bother. She believed comfort mattered more than impressing him after months together. When she was with Nathan, her boyfriend, Celeste preferred to dress down and skip the makeup altogether. Though Nathan didn't know how to mention her appearance without the risk of seeming or superficial, he did feel cheated. His silence about her appearance masked growing disappointment and frustration.

Celeste was the picture of simple, classy style when they first started going out, but now it was nearly always jeans, t-shirts and some kind of head-wrap. Nathan figured Celeste didn't consider him worth polishing-up for anymore, and over time his attraction to her disappeared. Small changes in appearance can reignite attraction and interest quickly. WHAT WENT WRONG: when a woman maintains her visual style, it's like making love to a man's eyes.

For every date in which you sport your all-natural and laid-back look, let there be at least a few pulled-together ones. Balance casual comfort with intentional effort to keep romance alive. It communicates, to your mate the message he loves most: You are worth my looking my best." Whether he ever says anything or not, you can be sure he notices—and it matters BIG to him. Your partner will notice and appreciate the extra effort you make.